by Belinda Lams
There are many ways to see things, yet we often stay committed to one version of reality...even if it keeps us stuck.
A while back, I had a coaching session with a woman who was convinced she couldn't do what she really wanted to do with her life.
She longed to change careers, but was certain it would lead to her demise. She figured it was better to stay unhappy and unfulfilled for the rest of her life than take that risk into the great unknown.
How many times do we choose to stay on that path of mild despair? We opt for what isn't working instead of learning how to courageously navigate what could potentially work very well.
I get it. I go through this on a daily basis. Here's what I am learning...
Just because something seems like the only option doesn't mean that it is. It just means that it is all I am willing to see. I am looking at my situation through a certain frame which creates this picture.
So what is the obvious solution? Reframe, of course. This is a common practice in coaching. We help our clients see what isn't working in their lives and then be willing to shift the way they perceive their situation until they find the release.
Where are you stuck in your life? What belief, behavior, excuse are you holding tightly, even though it is slowly draining the life out of you?
There is a whole reality outside of the frame you have around your circumstances, your beliefs, your rules, and your patterns.
Here's a starting point:
Even if you're not willing to change anything at the moment, try reframing your picture to explore some possible new scenarios. Notice where you feel a sense of relief, openness, hope.
"There are better and worse ways to live, " says one of my teachers, Rabbi Mordecai Finley. What if you choose better?
There are many ways to see things, yet we often stay committed to one version of reality...even if it keeps us stuck.
A while back, I had a coaching session with a woman who was convinced she couldn't do what she really wanted to do with her life.
She longed to change careers, but was certain it would lead to her demise. She figured it was better to stay unhappy and unfulfilled for the rest of her life than take that risk into the great unknown.
How many times do we choose to stay on that path of mild despair? We opt for what isn't working instead of learning how to courageously navigate what could potentially work very well.
I get it. I go through this on a daily basis. Here's what I am learning...
Just because something seems like the only option doesn't mean that it is. It just means that it is all I am willing to see. I am looking at my situation through a certain frame which creates this picture.
So what is the obvious solution? Reframe, of course. This is a common practice in coaching. We help our clients see what isn't working in their lives and then be willing to shift the way they perceive their situation until they find the release.
Where are you stuck in your life? What belief, behavior, excuse are you holding tightly, even though it is slowly draining the life out of you?
There is a whole reality outside of the frame you have around your circumstances, your beliefs, your rules, and your patterns.
Here's a starting point:
Even if you're not willing to change anything at the moment, try reframing your picture to explore some possible new scenarios. Notice where you feel a sense of relief, openness, hope.
"There are better and worse ways to live, " says one of my teachers, Rabbi Mordecai Finley. What if you choose better?
